Archive for July, 2008

Today I finished reading Mary Stewart’s novel Thornyhold and it was wonderful!  A very good, light read.  Lovely fluff.  Anyway, in the book, the heroine, Gilley Ramsey, moves into her mother’s cousin’s old house which she has inherited.  Essentially, the house is a small country cottage with a witch’s garden, since the house has a history of witches inhabiting it.  Don’t worry, it’s more along the lines of wise-women witches than wicked witches.

Well, to get on to the point, I have decided that I want to end up in a cottage in the country, with lots of land surrounding it.  I would love to learn the names of herbs and plants and use them to make yummy foods and good health ointments and such, like in the old days.  I know it’s a romantic dream, but I think I could totally do it.  I would love to spend time taking an overgrown, quaint cottage, and make it my own, and then reap the rewards.  It will be lots of hard work, but totally worth it.

The biggest problem, as I see now, would be finding the money.  I doubt that a dilapilated house like I dream of would cost too much at the beginning, but the renovation would certainly cost a good deal, and it would take a lot of time, time that I would like to devote entirely to my tasks.  Thus, I would need enough money to keep me for a few years whilst I renovate.  In my ultimate dream of dreams, I would love to live in my cottage and be the librarian for a small town.  If I could get that, I think I would be blissful.

Unfortunately, it’ll be a hard dream to fulfill, if only because America isn’t exactly chock-full of fabulous, quaint country cottages like the ones I dream of.  I would probably need to go to Europe.  But a girl can hope, right?  :sigh:


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This week there was an article in Newsweek titled “Who Says Kids Make You Happy?” and I have to say, it really made me happy to read it.

Lately, for some odd reason, I’ve been pondering over the question of whether or not I want to have kids in the future, because what I decide now is totally going to make a difference in the future.  I’ve always thought that I didn’t really want kids, cause they’re messy and annoying and all that jazz.  I never really enjoyed babysitting, except when the kids were good and cute, which is only about 30% of the time – if you’re lucky.  I like things all neat and quiet.  Kids don’t exactly jive with that picture.  Thus, I never wanted kids.

However, now that I have a boy and we’ve been together for longer than it takes lots of people to decide to get married, and even though I am absolutely 100% not ready to get married, I still think about it.  And he loves kids.  So would I have kids to make him happy?  Would having kids make me happy?  Everything society tells us is yes, having kids will make you happy.  Being a mother is the most wonderful thing in the world.  And for some people, I’m sure it is.  But would it be for me?  If I never have kids, will I regret it forevermore?

With all these questions plaguing me, reading Lorraine Ali’s article really eased my mind.  Essentially, she discusses a new study, recently released, that says that couples without children are in fact happier than couples with children.  I can connect with all the reasons she gives for this discrepency with our culture.  That’s the life I can see myself living.  For now.  Who can say that, 5, 10, or 15 years down the road, I might look back at this post (since I will of course be still updating it then!) and laugh at myself and my silly, naive views.  Or, I may reread it and feel like I could have written it yesterday.  Who can say?

What do you think?

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